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9/30/2018 3:15 pm |
I agree totally with what you posted here..I have tried time and time again to understand what it is..... I have asked and got no answers.. so I just say sorry you are attached and wish them good luck bon voyage etc..don't darken my door because I don't tolerate cheaters too well for whatever the reason...
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It is not as cut and dry as you make it out to be. It can be complicated by many things. Some of which has nothing to do with the act itself. I will leave it at that. I am sure you will have fun attacking me now. I mean you know, men are horrible and that is that, right? LOL. Enjoy spewing your venom.
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It is not always as simple as you are trying to label it. And, if you are going to point fingers asking "why", then you also need to accept the question needs to equally apply to the women who also say the same thing about "not getting it at home" or "not interested in their partner sexually anymore"
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I think most of them just want variety. I may be wrong. And they use that as an excuse to gain sympathy.
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lol...mostly lame in bed? Did I tell you about my 5 minutes 24 second marathon sex session? I ain't airing my marital issues on here, but sometimes we make wrong decisions and have to live with them because of other responsibilities.
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There are only two conditions necessary for a man to get sex from his wife: 1 - that experience has given her the expectation that she will enjoy the experience more than other activities she might engage in ie: sexual performance 2 - that the man turns her on, ie: his game. Except for the case of medical issues, that's it. The issue of performance has already been discussed. As for game, if a guy's approach to dealing with a lack of sex is to discuss it with his wife he has already lost. He needs to turn her on so she has a physical urge to have sex with him, not convince her that sex is a reasonable, sensible use of her time. Most men have no real understanding of what turns women on, that's why they refer to sex as "getting lucky". No game at all. Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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Sort of, but you're missing the mark. People cheat for other reasons too, not just a lack of sex. Also, I didn't say if a man can't get sex it means he turns his wife off, I said it means he isn't turning her on. If you actually turn your spouse off the sexual relationship probably can't be rescued. If you just aren't turning them on then you can lift your game so you do turn them on. Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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I haven't spoken about the success or failure of relationships at all, I have only addressed how a man should get sex from his wife. None of my comments deal with any other aspect of relationships. The context of my comments is provided by the blogger, that's why I'm talking about men who can't get sex from their wives. If Amy had blogged about women who can't get sex from their husbands I'd be talking about that. Amy's blog, Amy's topic. As well as missing the context in which I made my comments you've made a couple of logical fallacies. Mistaking "not turning her on" for "turning her off" is afalse equivalence falacy. Claiming that I've been talking about the success or failure of relationships when I've only discussed a much narrower topic is a straw man fallacy. I've named them in bold so you can look them up. There are lots of benefits from learning logic. I highly recommend it to you. I won't be continuing this discussion with you until you do, especially on someone else's blog. Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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I don't think that will be necessary 😉 For someone to respond to a critique of their logic with argumentum ad hominem is pretty funny though 😂 Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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amy_G_dala replies on 10/4/2018 3:25 am: I don't think when a guy has to discuss sex with his partner that he's "lost". In an open, frank manner he can ask her what works best for her in bed, instead of having her see it his way. In the normal course of a healthy relationship you are correct, it's good to discuss preferences. As a strategy to resolve a lack of sex, however, it is doomed to failure. It will be taken as pressure for sex and will most likely make the situation worse. A man in this situation should stop pressuring for sex and focus on building her desire so that she wants sex. Why should she be expected to have sex if she isn't turned on? I'd recommend a passionate kiss when he's on his way out the door to go to work. A light caress across her shoulder blade or arm, then walk off before she shuts him down. A continuous series of small stimulations, backing off each time before she feels the need to object. No pressure at all from him, just the mounting pressure of her own desire. If a guy does this and stops asking for sex altogether, in less time than you think she will be approaching him for sex. That's the time for him to ask her what she wants. Until he does this, what she really wants is for him to stop pestering her for sex. And if it so happens that she is naturally lower libido than he is, the emotional impact on him when she asks him for sex will go a long way towards making the imbalance more bearable. Following my advice may cause injury, insanity, financial loss, hemorrhoids, death and superpowers
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